Curious what people think counts as cheating. Is it always black and white, or does it depend on the relationship? Open to hearing everyone’s thoughts.
This really depends on the boundaries you and your partner set. If you feel like you need to hide something because it would upset your partner or harm your relationship, it’s probably crossing a line. Sometimes, people get too hung up on whether something is ‘officially’ cheating instead of looking at whether it’s just plain disrespectful.
@Micah
Completely agree with this.
I think anything your partner wouldn’t be okay with falls under that category.
Keaton said:
I think anything your partner wouldn’t be okay with falls under that category.
What about risky texts?
Keaton said:
I think anything your partner wouldn’t be okay with falls under that category.
What about risky texts?
Depends on the person. Some might not care, but others would see it as a big deal.
Keaton said:
I think anything your partner wouldn’t be okay with falls under that category.
What about controlling behavior, like banning your partner from having friends of the same sex?
@Sloane
That seems a bit extreme to me.
Keaton said:
@Sloane
That seems a bit extreme to me.
Yeah, I agree. Just wanted to see if you’d clarify what you meant earlier.
@Sloane
Wait, how does that even come up?
Anything that betrays trust is cheating in my book.
JillSwithut said:
Anything that betrays trust is cheating in my book.
No way, that’s not always cheating.
JillSwithut said:
Anything that betrays trust is cheating in my book.
No way, that’s not always cheating.
You can’t really decide for someone else what counts as cheating to them.
JillSwithut said:
Anything that betrays trust is cheating in my book.
No way, that’s not always cheating.
Some people might call that emotional cheating, though.
Hiding money under the Monopoly board is definitely cheating.
For me, cheating can involve three things: emotional, physical, or sexual.
- Sexual: If you sleep with someone else in a monogamous relationship, that’s cheating, no doubt about it.
- Physical: Actions like hugging or kissing could be cheating, but it depends on the intention behind it. If it’s done out of desire or romantic feelings, it’s crossing a line.
- Emotional: Spending time with someone because you have feelings for them, instead of focusing on your partner, can also be cheating. It’s better to talk openly about feelings rather than keeping secrets. Relationships have ups and downs, but hiding things or ‘lining up’ a new partner is never okay.
@Mackenzie
Really well said.
Hiding the truth from your partner is a form of cheating too.
Anything that breaks trust is cheating.
It depends on the relationship. Boundaries need to be set together since every relationship is different.