My son just started kindergarten, and the school’s already asked me to start picking him up early due to his behavior. They mentioned things like him running off, not following directions, and even throwing things. At first, I agreed to it, thinking it was a temporary thing. But now he’s noticing that he’s leaving early and feels singled out because other kids aren’t. I’m also concerned because they have him eating lunch in a separate classroom, and I wasn’t even told about it until he mentioned it. I want him to be there for a full day and to be more included. Does anyone know if I have the right to insist on him staying the entire day?
It sounds like they’re jumping the gun by asking you to pick him up early. He just started school! Have they tried any kind of support plan with him?
Zaire said:
It sounds like they’re jumping the gun by asking you to pick him up early. He just started school! Have they tried any kind of support plan with him?
Not yet. He’s still on the waitlist for an autism evaluation, so there’s no diagnosis or support plan yet. They haven’t even mentioned things like an IEP or anything.
@Fox
You could ask them to start an IEP process even without the diagnosis. Schools can do that if they see a need.
If they’re separating him during lunch and not telling you, that’s definitely something you can question. Social time is a big part of school.
Lin said:
If they’re separating him during lunch and not telling you, that’s definitely something you can question. Social time is a big part of school.
I agree, especially since they didn’t tell me. I only found out because he mentioned it to me. Seems like they should’ve informed me first.
@Fox
Absolutely. You have a right to be kept in the loop on things like that.
@Fox
Definitely bring it up in a meeting with them if you can. They need to communicate better.
If you’re feeling like the school’s not taking your concerns seriously, maybe bring a lawyer or advocate to the meeting. It might make them listen more.
Ashby said:
If you’re feeling like the school’s not taking your concerns seriously, maybe bring a lawyer or advocate to the meeting. It might make them listen more.
Good idea. I was thinking of it but not sure how much that would cost. I’m in MA, so I’m not sure what’s typical.
@Fox
Prices vary, but sometimes newer attorneys charge less and might even work out a payment plan.
Your son’s missing out on things like gym and art? That’s tough since those are important parts of social development. Maybe suggest they give him more support instead of pulling him out.
Jessie said:
Your son’s missing out on things like gym and art? That’s tough since those are important parts of social development. Maybe suggest they give him more support instead of pulling him out.
That’s my thought too. I suggested they assign someone to help him during those times rather than just keeping him out of them.
@Fox
Totally agree. With a little extra support, he might not need to miss out on those activities.
It’s great that you’re advocating for him. You’re within your rights to say you no longer agree with picking him up early. He deserves a chance to settle into school.
Arden said:
It’s great that you’re advocating for him. You’re within your rights to say you no longer agree with picking him up early. He deserves a chance to settle into school.
Thanks. I agreed to it initially, but I think he needs more time to adjust before they start sending him home early.
@Fox
Exactly. One week isn’t enough time to adjust to all those new rules.